The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
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Divorce does not just divide assets. It can shatter your sense of financial security and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about money. Whether you were the money person in your marriage or left financial decisions to your spouse, the emotional and logistical upheaval of starting...
by Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator
You Deserve More Than a Sandwich Over the Sink – A Story of Self-Care After Divorce
You may be wondering about the title for this blog—"That’s a weird thing to say, what’s that about?” I was thinking about how far I’ve come since the ...
Divorce at any age is hard. But when you are over 50, the financial stakes are different.
You do not have 20 years to rebuild. The decisions you make about your retirement accounts, your home, your Social Security, and your settlement are decisions you will live with for the rest of your life. Th
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The holiday season is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year,” right? But if you’re adjusting to new financial realities after a divorce, this season can feel more overwhelming than joyful. Between gifts, gatherings, travel, and all those little extras, holiday spending can easily snowb...
by Liesel Darby, M.Ed., M.A., CC - Divorce Mediator & Certified Divorce Coach
Two Words for the Same Moment
Consider the word "chaos." The images that come to my mind all have speed in them. Something happened fast, out of the blue, and your world is suddenly upside down. Chaos is the opposite of ...
by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach
What do the following have in common?
- You’re in the grocery store, looking for your favorite brand of stone-ground mustard, only to find that they no longer carry it. The replacement brand is twice the price, and you don’t like the packaging either.
- Yo...
by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach
Growing up, you likely heard others, at some point, say the “F- word”, and it wasn’t’ “fudge.” It was a taboo word and could possibly land you with a bar of soap in your mouth. In this blog we will discuss a different “F-word”, and it still isn’t “fudge”, ...
by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach
Divorce—a stark winter landscape where the familiar, leaf-laden trees of love and partnership are suddenly bare. But what if I told you that beneath that ice lies seeds of resilience waiting to sprout? Just as the arrival of spring heralds rebirth and new b...
Written by Liesel Darby, Mediator and Divorce Coach
Going through a divorce is hard enough on its own. When your co-parent is difficult, dismissive, or deliberately provocative, it can feel like the emotional work never ends.
The good news is this: you do not have to control them. You only have to...
If you’re searching for a divorce support group, I get it. You’re looking for people who understand what you’re going through. The sleepless nights. The financial overwhelm. The grief that hits you out of nowhere in the middle of a random Tuesday.
You’re not wrong for wanting that. In fact, reachin...
Going through a divorce is not just emotionally taxing, but it also brings a host of financial complexities that can have a profound impact on your future. Many individuals, while recognizing the need for legal advice during divorce, often overlook the critical role of a Certified Divorce Financial ...
When it comes to divorce and spousal support, there’s a prevalent misconception that only men are obligated to pay spousal support. However, in today’s ever-evolving landscape of gender roles, both professionally and domestically, the truth is that women can also be ordered to pay alimony. This lega...
