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Social media has become such an important part of our lives. However, when going through a divorce, you may want to be a little more cautious. I am thrilled to welcome guest blogger, Elizabeth Billies, to share the seven don'ts of social media during a divorce.

7 Tips for Social Media During Your D...

Life after divorce is a season unlike any other. You're grieving something that once mattered deeply, while simultaneously trying to build something new, often without a clear map for how to do either. If you've found yourself searching for words that make sense of what you're feeling, you're in the...

You've decided to try mediation but aren't sure how to ask your spouse to mediate your divorce. I get it. When your marriage is ending, and you are going your separate ways, it can be hard to be on the same page about anything, much less mediation. Use the following tips to help you ask (and convinc...

Change can be difficult whether you choose to make changes in your life or someone else has made that choice for you. Let's face it. Divorce changes many facets of your life and will test your ability to handle change to an extreme.

Some people struggle more than others with change. They fight it, ...

One of the hardest things to do as a divorced parent is to encourage your kids to go with your ex when they don’t want to. However, consistency is key to making those transitions easier over time. When my ex and I first separated, my youngest was a toddler. We all know how toddlers act when they're ...

It may or may not come as a surprise to you that a pension is frequently the largest asset negotiated in a divorce. With that said, it's not a foregone conclusion that you'll have to give up a portion of your pension as part of your divorce settlement. I'm surprised by the number of cases I see in w...

When I first meet with couples seeking mediation for their divorce, I find that many have the same questions. One common question is how long divorce mediation will take to complete. Divorce mediation work involves a series of voluntary and confidential sessions between spouses and a mediator, where...

When I was dealing with my breakup, I felt a wide range of emotions - everything from sadness to shame to anger and back again. Sometimes in a matter of minutes. On my best days, I wasn't being very kind to myself and on my worst days, I was my own worst enemy.

When you're dealing with a bre...

Rebuilding After Divorce

Going through a divorce can leave your finances feeling completely upended. Suddenly managing two households instead of one is costly, regardless of your income or the terms of your settlement. If you're struggling with money after a divorce, you're not alone—and there is a...

Looking for FAFSA tips for divorced parents? In many of my divorce cases, how college expenses will be handled is an issue that needs to be addressed. It's common for parents to wait to divorce until their children are teenagers or young adults. This tends to be around the same time that people are ...

With three school-age children, I'll be honest. I dread the beginning-of-the-school-year paperwork. There's so much new information to track, countless forms to fill out, and schedules to coordinate. When you're managing a co-parenting schedule for the school year, that complexity multiplies. But wi...

Talking to your children about divorce isn’t easy, especially when still processing your own feelings. Sometimes, using books designed to guide the conversation can be helpful, especially for very young children, as these books can help start conversations between parents and children. Here is a l...